Positive Parenting

POSITIVE PARENTING

Parents these days need to take care of the children of the 21st century who are born with a tag "HANDLE WITH CARE"

ØParenting is a process associated with social interaction and progeny, having survival value.

ØBiologically achieved, having psychological consequences of pride and ‘self-fulfillment’.

ØResponsibility for the mother and father, together or independently to prepare child for society and culture which provides ample opportunity to child.

What is positive parenting?

Positive Parenting is as an approach to child-raising that fosters a relationship between parents 

and children based on mutual respect, the facilitation of the child’s full development potential and on the ability to negotiate diverging interests  in a non-violent and constructive way.  

Parenting Practices are the specific behavior that parents use to socialize their children 

ØEmotional Climate in which children are raised.

ØParental demandingness and responsiveness are the two important elements.

•Parental Responsiveness: Warmth and Support  to Foster individuality, self control and assertion.

Parental Demandingness: Behavioural     control through Demands, supervision, disciplinary efforts,

and willingness to confront the child who disobeys.

Authoritarian Parents:

 

 ØHigh on demanding

 ØStrict and rigid in their expectations.

 ØLow on responsiveness

 ØEmotionally distant.

Permissive Parents:

 ØLow on demanding.

 ØHigh on responsiveness or irresponsible at times.

 ØIgnoring and indifferent at times.

 ØGenerally Warm and indulging-over.

 ØSetting few limits on appropriate.

Authoritative Parents:

 ØDemanding.

 ØResponsive to their children' demands/needs.

 ØVerbal give and take- understanding.

 ØNo rigidity, but control is firm.

 ØCreate awareness of ‘good’, ‘bad’ and appropriate.

 ØIndulging, but set limits.

As per the recommendations of Europeon Council of Ministers (2006)

“Positive Parenting” refers to parental behaviour based on the best interests of the child that is nurturing,

empowering, non-violent and provides recognition and guidance which involves setting of boundaries to

enable the full development of the child….”

Basic character strengths and virtues of Positive parenting:

  Wisdom and Knowledge (strength that involves the acquisition and use of knowledge)

•Creativity

• Curiosity

•Judgement and  Open mindedness

•Love of learning

•Perseverance and Wisdom.

Two notable things!

 1.The positive parenting  could go much beyond the development of character strengths i.e.in

developing what you have to its best.

2.The methods of positive parenting are going to remain the same, e.g. having warmth,

encouraging the child often using the principles of operand conditioning in shaping, chaining,

token economy by employing various reinforcement techniques, schedules & types (praise etc),

or by encouraging a behavior through the use of reinforcement & reducing it by using extinction

i.e.classical conditioning   techniques or by vicarious learning e.g modeling.

For Counselling on Positive Parenting and suggestions Contact Dr. P. Batra

email ID promilabatra11@gmail.com